Yes, You Really Do Need a Divorce

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You need a divorce.  That’s right, it’s time for a divorce but, don’t worry.  I’m not telling you to leave your partner. I am telling you to leave your attachment to outcome.

Every behavior results in a consequence. Even doing nothing is consequential so, I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t have any expectations about results.  I’m referring to a tunnel-vision like focus on a particular outcome that keeps you on the struggle bus and blocks your path to getting what we want.

Have you heard someone say (or experienced yourself), “Losing that job was the best thing that could have happened to me!”? Why?  Because getting fired or laid off cleared the path to stop clinging to what was wrong and to get moving toward what was right.

Holding on for dear life seems like the right thing to do because:

• It’s a ‘good job’.

• This relationship is better than being alone.

• I’ve invested a lot of time and money to get here.

One of my clients left her good job, started her own business and was highly successful in her first year. She was very grateful, but knew something was still missing. Once again, she explored her options, staying tuned in to what intuitively felt right, not what appeared to be right.  Hallelujah! She landed in a partnership that hits all her quality of life markers and lights her up in the best way.

Did she question herself on going through all the machinations of starting a business (her original desired outcome) then closing it relatively quickly? Yep!

Did she believe she was ‘til death us do part’ tied to her original outcome? I’m her coach so, nope!

Are you with me? Here’s how to divorce your ‘I feel stuck’ outcome and marry your BEST life:

1. Get crystal clear on your ideal life.

2. Identify mindset blocks that are keeping you from that life you crave. Let that S%#t go!

3. Move, Pivot, Move, Get Still, Course-Correct, Pay Attention, Move.

4. Ask for help. Invest in help. Hire a great coach.

5. Live the life you’ll never want to divorce!